Sunday, July 18, 2010

Who Is Easy To Manipulate?


Who is easily manipulated?

This is a question that has real interest to me as a practicing dentist.

Because doctors have the easiest time manipulating patients and good doctors know that they have to fight the temptation to do it.

I'm defining manipulation as working to spread an idea or generate an action that is not in a person's long-term best interest. 

Let's look at how people are manipulated.

The easiest people to manipulate are those that don't demand a lot of information, are open to messages from authority figures and are willing to make decisions on a hunch, particularly if there's a promise of short-term gains.

There are habits and activities that leave people open to manipulation. I'm not saying they are wrong or right, just pointing out that these behaviors make you open to being manipulated. Here are a few general categories of behaviors that manipulators seek out:

* Believing something because you heard someone say it on a news show on cable TV.
* Being a child (or acting like one).
* Repeating a mantra heard from a figurehead or leader of a tribe without considering whether it's true.
* Trying to find a short cut to lose weight, make money or achieve some other long-term goal.
* Ignoring the scientific method and embracing unexamined traditional methods instead.
* Inability to tolerate fear and uncertainty.
* Focus on now at the expense of the long term.
* Allowing the clothes or appearance of the messenger (a uniform, a suit and tie, a hat, body type, etc.) to influence your perception of the information he delivers (add gender, fame, age and race to this too).
* Reliance on repetition and frequency to decide what's true.
* Desire to stick with previously made decisions because cognitive dissonance is strong.  Cognitive dissonance is what happens when what you believe is contradicted by new information. Research shows that, when confronted with challenging new information, many people seek to preserve their current understanding of the world by rejecting, explaining away, or avoiding the new information.

  
It's interesting to note that AM radio used to be filled with ads for second mortgages. And now?  Gold.  Manipulators are tuned in to what people can be scared into or easily convinced of. 

Manipulating people using modern techniques is astonishingly easy (if the manipulator has few morals). You only make it easier when you permit people and organizations that want to take advantage of you to do so by allowing them to use your good nature and your natural instincts against you. It happens every day in Washington DC, online, on TV and in your local community institutions. 

What does this have to do with dentistry?

A lot.  Because the worst kind of dental practice is one which tries to "sell" dentistry to patients by scaring them, not supplying information, not sharing knowledge, and basically recommending treatment because it's good for the dentist, and maybe not the right thing for the patient.

Yes, of course it happens.  All the time.  It makes me angry when I see it or hear of it.

Look back over the list of characteristics of people who are easily manipulated.  Do you see yourself anywhere in that list?

In our office we strive to share full and complete information and we respect your right to your own personhood.

That's one reason why we have a blog and a web site that has huge amounts of information.

We talk about this all the time in our office; we actually have meetings about it, and each of us watches to see that we don't fall into the trap.

Doctors have a special obligation to their patients.  We take that very seriously.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Conversation Gems With My Patients



I'm a dentist, but I actually talk with my patients.  

Some of my colleagues think I'm crazy and they say stuff like "Time is money so get 'em in and get 'em out."   "When a patient is talking, you're not working."  "People come to get drilled, not to talk or to hear you talk."  "What the heck is there to talk about?"  "Hey, I run a dental office, not a social meeting place."

No, really.  I get this all the time.  I wonder what it's like to be a patient in one of their offices.

Here are a bunch of things that came up in conversation with my patients over the years (I write down stuff sometimes when it really tickles me).  Some were said to me and some I said myself.  I'm not telling which is which.

Some might have been read or heard elsewhere, but that doesn't matter.  To me, they are all gems.  My conversations with my amazing patients are one of the best things about my job.  My patients keep me going and make my day fun for me and for my team (they like to talk also).

So here are a few of the hundreds of gems and little bits of wisdom that have come my way from the great people who come to our office.


Enjoy!


1. I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.

2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

3. There is great need for a sarcasm font.

4. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

5. Was learning cursive really necessary?

6. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired.

7. Bad decisions make good stories.

8. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

9. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.

10. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page research paper that I swear I did not make any changes to.

11. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this - ever.

12. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Damn it!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voicemail. What did you do after I didn't answer? Drop the phone and run away?

13. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste.

14. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

15. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

16. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Lite (or wine or Margaritas) than Kay Jewelry.

17. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Speed Trap" and "Avoid Bad Neighborhood" routing options.

18. Sometimes, I'll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and  suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it.

19. I would rather try to carry 10 plastic grocery bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in.

20. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I'm trying to finish a text.  (this one made me worry)

21. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word they said?

22. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent an ass from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers and sisters!

23. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber & dumber every year?

24. There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.

25. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket or finding their cell phone - but I'd bet my behind everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!

26. Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

I love my patients!